Facebook and Instagram ‘Like’ buttons: The 21st Century Mirrors

While others may argue that a mirror lies, let us stick to the general idea that a mirror always tells the truth. A mirror does not only show us where to draw that eyeliner line, or if we have put on enough blush or point out whether our collars are in place or not. Its most important job is to show us the true reflection of yourselves. That is the mirror’s most important job because that reflection can make or break us. What we do is translate that reflected image into a “I like what I see” or a “I need to work out” reaction and attitude. We either gain confidence in our own skin based on that reflection or we lose confidence and want to hide. However, it looks like we will need to store mirrors away in boxes. The mirror’s main job of either making or breaking us has been replaced by the Facebook and Instagram ‘like’ buttons. The Instagram and Facebook ‘like’ buttons have become the 21st century mirrors.

In today’s world, we allow the number of ‘likes’ on our Facebook and Instagram photo posts to make or break our confidence. We base our confidence on the number of ‘likes’ our photo receives. We let our Facebook and Instagram photo ‘likes’ shape the way we view ourselves. When we post our photo and do not get a single like or we get just one or maximum of 5 ‘likes’ only an hour later, we panic and lose confidence and most of us remove the photo, the same way we would look away from the mirror and lose confidence if we looked in the mirror and did not appreciate what we saw. When we get 50 ‘likes’ in 20 minutes we lose our minds! We gain a lot of confidence. We think we own Facebook and become selfie-producing machines as "Felebs". We feel great. We want to become South African Kim Kardashians.

The ladies who do not care about ‘likes’ and do not let it define their beauty must be acknowledged and praised!

Although it helps, why do we need social networks to boost our confidence levels? Why do we let social networks make or break us? Why do we let the number of ‘likes’ on our photo posts determine and shape the way we look at ourselves. We have allowed the number of likes on our posts to become the reflection of who we are. That is an incorrect reflection. Some people like your photos only because they know you or are just returning the favour and others do not like your photos perhaps because they are jealous of your beauty or because they just simply do not like you. Clearly the Facebook ‘like’ button is not a true reflection of your beauty.

Ladies we need to stop letting social networks and the number of likes we receive determine how we see ourselves. True beauty is found within.

Society can call you average or ugly, but it is how you see yourself that determines who you really are. You have to look in the mirror (the real mirror please) and GENUINELY see one beautiful and amazing lady. Next step is to walk it out. If you walk out your beauty, the same society that called you average or ugly is bound to notice your beauty (although please remember that it is mostly about you, not what society thinks). There is absolutely nothing more attractive than a woman who knows herself (of course, be careful not to be arrogant). It is about time that we knew ourselves and stopped letting social network ‘likes’ be our source of confidence. ‘Likes’ are an incorrect reflection of our beauty and who we are. We must know who we are and walk it out!